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fear

Fear.


This past couple of weeks have been some of the most challenging weeks of my life from my motherhood and business point of view.


I have been extremely exposed...fear of pain and uncertainty for my child, emotional pain of seeing as a business owner, other not fun business lessons,  bike accidents, sick kids, new staff, and an up and coming expansion…


A lot of unknowns and my ego getting ripped up and anxiety triggers of unrealistic understanding of reality…


All in a week.  And I’m not in a great place.  I’m actually pretty freaked out...and yet through all of my irrational responses to moments of uncertainty, I knew I needed to reset.  So I’m writing to you.


In fact, most of my newsletters are not inspired by problems around me, but imbalances within.


I certainly have a high level of resilience.  High level of fighting through the ease of comfort, but sometimes life does get the best of me and I get pretty bummed and then I bouce back.  I try not to be stuck in my understanding of the presence and move forward when it is clear that the irritations of lessons are invisible high school English teachers...Poking you to analyze, revise, read more closely, and say it without excess.


English teachers always gave me much more than simply learning the art in the English language, so I played with this idea of grappling with emotional responses and our ability to reflect.


Like I said...analyze, revise, read more closely, and say it without excess.


Analyze what really is happening.  It is YOU. Completely. You can’t know others the way you know yourself and if that means leading with empathy instead of self imposed confusion then do that.  Your fear can make you self preserve instead of grow. Shift to growing. Shift to finding your loving response to yourself and others.  


Revise how you are responding...PLEASE FEEL.  Discomfort is a lesson, however, revise what that discomfort is making you do.  Find a diffuser. Neutralize pain’s power over your perception of reality. Break it up.  Read a book. Walk. Recognize that action unless love filled will not work as quickly or effectively in the long run.


Read more closely to your wisdom.  You know way more than you think, but rarely do you really trust intuition of love.  We can be impulsive. Full of fear. Inactive. Angry. Mean. But, that isn’t the complexity of your influence in the world or in yourself.  Ride the wave of endorphins when you feel like you have found a truth. Feel warm when you problem solve.  


Then when you find a solution say it without excess.  Don’t fill your head or those around you with pomp and circumstance...just find the words after the pain is felt.  Simplicity and being concise is the best way to communicate complexity...to yourself and to others.


Rinse and repeat =)


Do you have other ways?


E


30 Days of Uncertainty

30 Days of uncertainty!


The next 30 days I would like you to focus on uncertain moments and how you handle them.  


What is uncertainty to you?

Why is it so bad?

Why is it so uncomfortable?

Aren’t all things uncertain?

Who are you to know?

Is control a necessity to peace?

When have you known for sure that you were balanced and perfect?

Have you ever been?

How have you developed your sense of expectations, goals?

Why have you?


This is just a start, but a worthwhile thought exercise to tear open some understanding of the impossibility of perfection and certainty.


Prove them wrong!

Erin


finally...

Finally...the first version of my Journal.


About a year ago I created a planner and journal for my clients and members to use, and the first version is finally here.  Download a print off by responding with “yes, please” and enjoy my strategy on feeling a comprehensive sense of progress when it is easy to get distracted on where we are not.


I think dreaming and reminding ourselves of all of our “parts” is essential to our truth.  Deficit thinking, while productive, has an effect on our spirit. Many times, there is a lot happening that is amazing, but we look at what is NOT currently indicative of our effort, our dreams, our strengths and this somehow defines our entire life for the moment.  


No amount of self talk can take us out of stress mode when we define our entire life based off of a moment of change or uncertainty.


So recognize ALL your parts.  Write down in an accompanying journal what makes you feel the most energized.


Next I have “personal dreams.”  These are my ideals for how I want to feel progress for myself (professional, personal).


Self Care dreams are my ideals for caring for myself.  I include exercise, movement, nutrition, stress breakers, etc.


Family is how I interact with my family and how we develop our own plans and presence.


Travel is a personal love of mine.  I like to be out of my element to keep a complex sense of truth inside of my head.  It keeps me pleasantly unclear.


Talents and creativity are meant to be for the individual that has an art that they love!  Reading, writing, playing an instrument, speaking, language, craft, etc. Keep this a part of you!!  Boredom happens when we lose aesthetic and creative challenge.


Thoughts on society is healthy as it keeps my perspective in check.  Social media makes people seem mean and I think to maintain a sense of love towards life, you can’t write out the world.  You have to find empathy and authority balance. This would be a place for that monthly reflection and outlet.


Ideal day is how I would structure my time to feel complete.  Where my attentions would go. How I would use my energy. Monthly assessment is a necessity.


My Ideal Connection is most important.  The energy you use is the energy you make.  




Finally, I include reflection.  SO MUCH REFLECTION and explanation.  You can’t know your effect without truly thinking about it.  Do it all the time. Write about what has happened and how it changed you and vice versa.


This is a work in progress, but something finally put together.


Fear first, right?


I think creating a monthly way to see yourself comprehensively is interesting and a way to pass down your authenticity =)


Enjoy.


E